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Jessica's avatar

Thank you for this.

With or without them I will actually cope

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

Yes my love!! You will cope. Love you 😘

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Blossom Ubochi's avatar

You’d honestly cope.

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Fawaz's avatar

Sometimes caring too much drained me; mentally, emotionally and physically. All these for people who even barely cared for me. I’m happy I learnt how to let go💕

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

I’m happy for you my friend!❤️😊

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Blossom Ubochi's avatar

It’s honestly too draining! You’d be so shocked how there are more people you’ve not met who would love you just the way you are, people who are not your closest, who are simply just rooting for you with genuine heart.

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Azeezat salawu's avatar

This sentence ~ `I no longer need validation to keep people close when I know they wouldn’t do the same for me.’💗💗

Cheers to growth🥂

Thank you Aisha 🫶🏼💘

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

No time to seek validation 😌 proud of us my friend ❤️

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Temilola Ameen-Ikoyi🫧💕's avatar

Thissssssssss!!! The way I don’t have to overthink protecting my boundaries now is refreshing 🙂‍↕️. So glad we’re all protecting our peace 🤍

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

Very refreshing 🥺🥺 it really feels good to be good to oneself

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Nifeeeee's avatar

I always say this, not every ended relationship needs closure, sometimes just walk away. Cheers to more personal growth 🥂✨

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

Very spot on! Not everyone needs closure. Thank you my friend ❤️❤️

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Rhehanat🌸💗's avatar

“I cared too much about how the other person felt and too little about myself”

Spot on 💗

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

Cheers to putting ourselves first now🥳💗

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Oluwasomisayo's avatar

Thank God for growth and the ability to decipher between “mistakes” and “disrespect”

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

Thank God fr!! I’m glad for us both

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Oluwasomisayo's avatar

I can so relate to this🥺🫶🏻

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Aisha Nana💘's avatar

Twinnn

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Adedoyin Baarakah's avatar

I really needed this...

I recently let go a relationship I found myself stuck in for almost a year just cause I didn't want to hurt the other person's feelings. It literally got to the brim for me when this person consistently chose themself and other people without considering my own emotions. I wished I hadn't ignored that side of them because I completely lost all of myself to them... All I can say is, it sure wasn't worth it.

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The EbunOluwa Ayobami's avatar

The last line!!!! I'd cope

Giving excuse of not knowing what they are going through to make them treat you like that doesn't even count cos someone that loves you friend or relationship won't let what they are going through affect your being with them when they can communicate

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Blossom Ubochi's avatar

I feel this deeply.

For me, learning to walk away wasn’t about being cold, it was about finally valuing my peace over keeping every relationship alive.

Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re protection. The right people won’t make you question your worth, and losing the wrong ones is never really a loss. Sometimes learning how to just walk away is the best thing you can do for yourself, no closure, no conversation, just go, save yourself.

Thank you for writing, Aisha! I hope you continue. ❤️

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Kosh's avatar

Slowly disengage ke?Omo quickly disengage from people who drain you oh because they never stop!

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Al ameen onike's avatar

Sometimes you just need to cut some people off to grow💯.

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